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@lokesh94

My family thinks I'm being too picky about food since my Type 2 diagnosis

I was diagnosed with Type 2 a few months ago and I've been trying really hard to change how I eat. My numbers have improved, which I'm happy about, but meals at home are becoming more frustrating than the diabetes itself.

My family was very supportive in the beginning. Now whenever I say I'd rather not eat something I get comments like "a little won't hurt" or "you ate that last week, why can't you eat this?"

Tonight they made chicken and vegetables, which was perfect for me, and then at the end mixed a huge amount of rice into the whole thing. I know I can still choose my portion, but rice is one of those foods I personally find difficult to manage, and they know I've been trying to have less of it. I was annoyed because it would have been so easy to just leave it on the side.

I know managing my diabetes is ultimately my responsibility and I don't expect everyone in the house to change their diet for me. I just wish they would stop treating every food choice I make like I'm being difficult.

Anyone else deal with this after diagnosis? Did your family eventually understand or did you just start handling your meals separately?

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nidhisharma
@nidhisharma

The "but you ate it last week" comment drives me insane 😂

My family couldn't understand that occasionally choosing to eat something doesn't mean I want it every single day. If I have dessert at a birthday suddenly everyone thinks cake has been officially approved by my pancreas.

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@lokesh94

YES. Exactly this. If I eat one sweet they remember it for the next six months 😂

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nidhisharma
@nidhisharma

Meanwhile they somehow forget the 40 normal meals you ate between those two sweets.

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@rajeshgupta

I eventually stopped explaining every choice. If I don't want something I just say no thanks.

The more I tried to explain glucose, carbs, portions and why one meal was different from another, the more it turned dinner into a debate.

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@lokesh94

I think I need to start doing this. I'm exhausted from defending what is on my own plate.

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@komalpatel

You don't need them to eat exactly like you. But asking them to keep rice separate from the rest of the meal seems like a pretty small request.

That's how we handle it at home. Everyone builds their own plate and nobody has to make two completely different dinners.

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sandeepnaik
@sandeepnaik

This works really well in our house too. Curry/sabzi in one bowl, rice or roti separately, then everyone decides their own portion.

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@lokesh94

That's literally all I want. I'm not asking them to stop making rice. Just don't mix everything together before I get a chance to serve myself.

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@abhishek-r

My parents went the opposite direction and became the diabetes police. Every time I ate anything they'd ask if I was allowed to have it 😭

So there is apparently no winning with family.

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@sagarpatil

Same. Ate half a mango once and you'd think I'd committed a crime.

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@abhishek-r

😂 Exactly. Please let me manage my own mango.

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@prakash37

I started meal prepping a few basics for myself on Sunday. Not every meal, just enough that I always have something in the fridge if dinner doesn't work for me.

It removed a lot of the resentment because I stopped feeling trapped by whatever everyone else decided to cook.

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@lokesh94

This is probably where I'm heading. Even having two or three backup meals ready would make evenings much less stressful.

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@pooja-m

One thing that helped my husband understand was seeing my meter after different meals. Before that he genuinely thought I was following random internet food rules.

Once he saw that two meals that looked similar could affect me differently, he stopped arguing with me about it.

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@lokesh94

That's a good idea. I don't think they understand how much I've learned just by watching my own readings.

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@sonamverma

Also, don't let one frustrating dinner turn into feeling like your progress is ruined. You still made all those changes and got your numbers moving in the right direction.

Family learning how to support you is a separate problem from whether you're doing a good job managing your diabetes.

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